Traits that narcissists look for in their “chosen ones”
Empathy a narcissist will always be looking for an empathic person. This is because they are easier to manipulate. It will not even occur to an empath that a person would lie and deceive them (unless they have been hurt by someone before) at the same time as professing their love.
Trust they will be looking for someone who cannot operate in a relationship if there is not trust. They will test the trust levels of their victim to see how far they can push their agenda, frequently asking them to prove their trust. Once they know that they have the trust of the other person, they will start to betray them. Little by little at first but then on absolutely everything
Openness and honesty when someone is open and honest it is very easy for a narcissist to harvest information about the insecurities of that person. It doesn’t occur to most people that sharing information in this way is anything other than a way of getting to know each other better. However, this information will be taken and used against a victim in the future so that a narcissist can diminish and demean their “chosen one”
Politeness and behaving correctly narcissists depend on the fact that their victims will be polite and determined not to “hurt other people’s feelings” or have the ability to say “no”. Above all they look for people whose intention will be to be civil and decent. To the narcissist, this level of politeness is sheer a delight, it means that boundaries are easily violated and that is just what they are looking for. They will count on the fact that you will try to be fair and just, while they will be dishonest, scheming and conniving.
Self-doubt delights the narcissist because they can easily erode their victims confidence and replace their confidence with the narcissists narrative, they do this little by little chipping away at their self-esteem all of the time.
Vulnerability is seen as a weakness in the predatory narcissist. When they sense that someone is having a difficult time in their life is the exact moment they will pounce, they will first appear that they are filled with concern and willing to help when and where they can. When they have their victim lulled into a false sense of security they will change and gradually (but persistently) try to destroy them
Kindness and generosity are seen as weakness by a narcissist and the will exploit it as far as they can. It is up to the giver to know when to stop giving as the taker has no limits. They will regard kindness and a willingness to cooperate as a form of stupidity. After they have taken everything that they can get from an individual they will walk away with absolutely no sense or remorse whatsoever.