They will not accept your apology graciously
- They will try to get you to repeat the apology time and again, because they see the fact that you are apologising as a win for them.
- They will expect you to grovel for their forgiveness (even if you did nothing wrong and are just apologising for the sake of a peaceful life).
- If you did make a mistake of some sort, the narcissist will remind you time and again, even years after the fact, even if you didn’t make the mistake, it is the way that they have decided to remember it.
- They see an apology as a weakness and will try to dump blame on you for things that they did or didn’t do “while they have you”, as they see it
- If you accept partial blame for an action they will make it out to be entirely your fault
- They will try to shut you down (through rage, volume or storming off) if you try to set the record straight
- The will tell as many other people that they can that you are responsible for their own misdeeds and will play the victim of their own misdemeanours
- They will use an apology as leverage to make you do something for them that is beyond being a reasonable request
- They will always see an apology as an excuse to play power games